On my most recent post, The Great Adventure, a reader commented: “Marriage provides constant opportunity for emotional risk-taking.” His words provide the perfect segue for this new post on intimacy.
Now each reader most likely has his or her own definition of and associations with that term, so for the purpose of this blog post I am using the term to refer to close familiarity or relationship; closeness. That’s intimacy in the broadest terms which can encompass the more specific aspects of emotional, spiritual and physical intimacy.
I believe the blog comment introduces this topic perfectly because emotional risk-taking is necessary for intimacy. Deep down, we all crave close connections with others (including God and our spouse) yet we fear it at the same time.
“The word marriage implies intimacy, and intimacy implies vulnerability,” writes John Paul Jackson, referring to intimacy and vulnerability as “two profoundly personal and often frightening sentiments.”
God created marriage as the most intimate of all earthly relationships. It’s the closest connection we have with another human being on our planet.
“A true marriage is a union of one spirit with another. It is a deeply intimate binding of two souls, where more than just thoughts and secrets are shared,” Jackson writes.
How does your marriage reflect this divine intention? Are you and your spouse growing in intimacy with each other and with God?
The spiritual union of marriage can be illustrated in partner dance, bringing this discussion into the context of this blog. Couples dancing together are often described as “moving as one.”
Dance instructors Stuart and Tracy Palmer describe how dancing moves beyond the figurative in a blog post:
… we continue to see that couples who dance together generally have better relationships and deeper intimacy. Not only that, but just about every couple we’ve taught proclaims that learning to dance together parallels learning to have a better relationship. And it’s true; the couples that look the best on the dance floor have learned to be better partners. They understand their individual roles and know how to enhance their partnership.
How has a shared experience such as dancing together increased intimacy in your marriage?